How can you free yourself from unconscious codependent patterns? Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, relationship and empowerment expert, author and podcast host is back to share the most valuable lessons from her new book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. She shares how to stop auto-accommodating and over-giving, how to surrender and allow others to love you, how to slow down and learn from your inner child, and how to take one next right action at a time towards a more authentic and joyful life.

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TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. There’s something so beautiful and relaxing when you learn to let the chips fall where they may when they’re not your chips. Put it down.
2. When you change your boundary dance, people are going to notice. And that’s okay.  Let them notice.
3. There is no curing, but there definitely is recovery from these behaviors. It’s just about your raised awareness, one behavior and one next right action at a time.
4. Don’t rush your life away. You can’t be checking so many boxes for your whole life. Challenge yourself to do nothing.
5. The feelings that we try to avoid will come up to be our friends, to inform our behavior, to give us information about the child within. She doesn’t want you to do more. She wants you to be more, to have more fun, to expand more.
6. There’s a power of allowing others to add value to our lives. Allow yourself to surrender to the love of others. It feels so good to let people love us in the way that we love everyone.

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